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You’ve had a painful break up and the time you’ve spent broken up is excruciating. The only thing you can think about night and day is him, either while your bawling or being mad and stomping around. Your friends have tried to get you to go out on dates with other men but none of them are as good as your ex and you know deep in your heart that he is the only man for you. You’ve decided that you must figure out how to get your ex back, at all cost, and you know it will work out if you can just give it one more chance. However you need a bit of help figuring out how to get your ex back and a bit of support from your friends.

Remember that during the break up and afterwards you most likely said some things you regret. Your friends probably agreed with you or even added fuel to the fire, either way plenty of harsh words have been said. Before you try to get your ex back it is probably a good idea to let your friends know what your intentions are. Let your friends know how much their support meant to you during that horrible time in your life and that you were very angry and said some things you didn’t mean but that he really is the only man for you and their continued support is really needed.

And since they are your friends, they will do everything in their power to help you get your ex back. Well, not likely. At least not at first. They will probably throw a fit and figure you have completely lost your mind! Mainly because they love you and do not want to see you hurt again however after the initial shock they will come around and give you the support you need.

Next you need to figure out why you want to get back together with your ex. Is it because you are in love with him and miss him terribly, or is it because you don’t want to be alone? Are you afraid of the unknown and want to get back together because it was comfortable? Or did you have a few bad dates after your breakup and figure you can’t do any better? You need to be really honest with yourself because whatever problems you were having still exist. They did not magically disappear they just don’t seem as important right now.

His bad behaviors did not magically clear up when you broke up, so consider everything before moving ahead. If you broke up in the heat of an argument, that is one thing, but if you simply could not tolerate a nasty habit or another, then you are probably bound to repeat the same, sad cycle.

Another thing to consider is if your ex is even still single. If he was cheating on you and that’s why you broke up, trying to reclaim him from his new women is just not a good idea. A cheater, is a cheater,is a cheater. If he is unfaithful now he will be unfaithful again and that is something you simply should not put up with. Also is he is seeing someone else you need to ask yourself whether you really want him back because you love him or if you are just seeking revenge.

If he is unattached, and you would still like to get him back then you need to understand that nothing has changed. Any problem you had before is still going to exist. You need to be willing to put it all out on the table and have honest discussion about them. If your not ready to discuss it then you are not ready to get back together. To put it all on the table, make a list of what your problems were and see if you are able to compromise on them.

If you are able to positively work it out then slowly start to date again. Pretend that he is someone new and re-find all of the things that made you love him in the first place. Be aware of the things you don’t much care for and make sure they are discussed before they have the chance to turn into a big problem. Try to not get caught up in the rush of the familiar, and like always, try to think with your head first as opposed to your heart.